Double L's

Quick concept lesson, then a blog post.

Leadership courses, seminars, & trainings often discuss a concept called the 'Johari Window.' The Johari Window, in essence, is a 2x2 matrix that represents things that are known to you, known to others, unknown to you, and unknown to others. For the "things" that fit within the boxes, think personal characteristics, habits, experiences, etc.

Names are given to the different quadrants based upon who knows about it--if, for example, you know that I tend to cock my chin to the left when I'm thinking but I don't realize that I'm doing it, that habit would fall into the 'blind spot' category for me. If we both know it, i.e. that my name is Lisa, it's in the 'arena' category. If I know something but you don't, i.e. my insecurities, it falls into the 'facade' category, and if neither of us know it, i.e. where I'll be living 15 years from now, it's 'unknown.'
While simple, I think the Johari Window is a great tool because it helps us examine ourselves (arena & facade), learn about the ways we're perceived by others (blind spot), and continue personal development (blind spot & unknown). 

So why am I bringing it up?
a. I think it's interesting and
b. It leads into a new feature I'm going to start posting

The details
Giving advice is something that I tend to do without realizing it and while I don't think twice about friends coming to me for input (in my book, that's what friends do for each other), I've recently had friends of friends/contacts/acquaintances reaching out to me for it. For someone who doesn't perceive herself as someone that gives advice worth passing on outside of the original context, talk about a strange experience.

That said, in my long-term self vision (something I'll cover in a later post), I envision myself being someone that others come to for advice...I just don't see myself as that person yet. I think we all struggle with things along those lines--we don't see ourselves as 'smart enough,' 'cool enough,' 'old enough,' whatever enough to do things that we want to do or be things that we want to be.

An article I read this weekend in congruence with the 10th anniversary of 9/11 made me think about this stuff in a different light. Events like these make you realize how quickly things can change and how each day shouldn't be just be a day--it should be a day that makes you feel more alive.

So. What's the point of this?
If you wait until you feel smart enough/cool enough/old enough/whatever enough, you're either never going to feel that way or not get the opportunity to do what you want to do. 

Reality fights dirty.

That said, it's a choice as to whether you let it happen to you or if you take an active role in shaping it. Since I've had people reveal to me that my 'blind spot' capabilities actually align with my 'facade' dreams, I'm going to do the latter and start taking strides towards being the advice-giver I want to be. Double L's or life lessons I've figured out during my 20-some years will regularly be popping up on this blog--take them, leave them, modify them to be your own, but let me know what you think. Also, do some thinking on your own about what you've been waiting to do...and then use today as an opportunity to do it. You won't regret it. 

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